"Do not be yoked with unbelievers..."

Last night Val and I got to talking about whether or not Christians should only date Christians. Actually, the conversation started as a joke about me cheating on him, and he mentioned that if I ever did, it would just prove to him that Christian girls are no different than non-Christians. It is because of the fact that he sees Christians all over the place that do the same things as non-Christians that he thinks it doesn't really matter then. At this point in the conversation I told him I wasn't going to say anything, because I disagree wholeheartedly, and it was not worth getting into an argument about (I was trying the whole pick-your-battles concept, haha). However, I could not hold my tongue, and I quickly erupted into an extensive monologue explaining why I feel so strongly about this topic.

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 has become a verse that means so much in my life.
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."
"Therefore come out from them
and be separate, says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.
I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."

Towards the end of my freshman year of high school, I started going out with a guy that I had liked for literally three and a half years beforehand. At the time, I considered myself a Christian, but in reality it meant nothing to me. It was just a reason to keep going to what constituted youth group every week. Shortly after the two of us started going out, David joined our church as the new youth pastor, and we started going through this discipleship workbook called Equipping the Saints. I learned SO MUCH about what being a Christian means, and I believe that is the time that I truly became saved. From that point on, I experienced incredible growth as a Christian. I felt like I had rocketed away from everything I knew to be "normal".

At the same time, my relationship with that guy was going well, except for the fact that all we seemed to do was fight about church. I was constantly inviting him to come to youth group, and when he didn't want to come, I tried to convince him to join in on a party or a skating trip, but nope. I began to pray that he would come, that God would do something miraculous in his heart. He swore up and down that he loved me, but I couldn't understand why he didn't want anything to do with something that was such a huge part of my life.

I was scheduled to be baptized with a group of other kids on August 13th of 2006. I invited my boyfriend to come, but he refused. That Sunday evening came and went, and although it was an incredibly happy moment for me, I was devastated--I wanted him to share this with me so bad, but he wouldn't. After that, I began talking to David online about what I'd been thinking and feeling, and he told me about the verses posted above. As I read them and thought about the advice he had given me, I decided that from that point on I would continue to pray about the situation and what exactly the passage meant. I'd heard some people say that it only applies to marriage, while others throw dating in there too, and really, I wanted to know what GOD thought. So, I continued to pray, and often I would cry over my boyfriend and those verses. Yes, I wanted him to come to know Christ, but I think I was just mostly scared that I would have to break up with him in the end. As I talked to God about it time and time again, and began to see that God was telling me that the verses do indeed apply to dating, I freaked out because I knew that God was asking me to break up with this guy. I did NOT want to do that, so in desperation I thought well if I could just get him to come to church ONCE that would be good enough. Obviously, that way of thinking did not work out, and eventually I broke up with him.

In all, this is the story behind how I came to find this passage so important. It was during this time that I realized that I, as a Christian, was headed in a total opposite direction from him. We failed to have in common the most important thing in life, as evidenced by all of our arguments about church. Even if we had been able to quench them then, there would have come a time when I could no longer stand by his side and still truly follow God. I so completely believe that a Christian should strive to date and marry other Christians only, not just "good people". Yes, there will be Christians who make mistakes, and people who claim to be Christians but don't live that way. But honestly, that is for you as an individual to judge for yourself. You don't HAVE to date the Christian that cheats on her boyfriends. Find someone who is more trustworthy and has more integrity than that, but let the person you choose be someone who is after the heart of God, not just someone who sticks the title "Christian" on them.

That's just what I think. When I finished explaining this last part to Val, I couldn't help but laugh. I had gotten so worked up over this, and I apologized because he was kind of speechless after that. Haha. So yeah...that's what I think, and I'd REALLY like to know your opinion. Do share! =]

I'm out for the night. Peace!